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The Signs That You Are Dating a Future Faker
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| 会話特有表現 |
| like ・・のような、・・みたいな I am like/I was like/It’s like/It feels like/It sounds like ・・みたいな right? ・・ね That’s right そのとおり I think 私が思うに you know 解るよね、解るでしょ you know what? あのさー。／あのね。（話を切り出すときや、相手の注意を引くとき） um えーと so それで and then それで・・・ I mean つまり what do you mean? it feels good you’ve got to xxx = gotta = have to gonna = going to anyway どのちみち kind of = sort of a little bit of a whole lot of stuff = things wait to see 様子見する they may say ……. you’re saying………… you don’t want to xx ～すべきではない、～しない方がよい make sure |
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| red flags 〔危険・警戒・停止信号としての〕赤旗 look out for ～に注意［警戒］する move “way 【副】〈話〉はるかに、ずっと、かなり too fast” suss (suspect) out those narcissists ～〔実態・事情などを〕調べる let’s pump the brakes 〔軽く何度も車の〕ブレーキを踏む deliver on their promise 約束を果たす draw out 引き伸ばす the distance between exercise 〔能力などを〕働かせる a little bit of self-control wait to see develop into ～に進化する、～に発展する a worthwhile relationship 価値［値打ち・やりがい］のある・関係 accept/take responsibility go on a(nother date) this weekend expect you to あなたがXXするのを期待する welcome them with open arms confront them on that issue pay more attention to as opposed to ～とは対照的に give a chance goldilocks《天文》ゴルディロックスゾーン（生命）居住可能領域 rule for dating have balance miss your blessing 神［天］の恵み |
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what are some of the future faking red flags /people need to look out for ? judy
- well first is if the other person is moving “way” too fast
nobody should be saying “i love you” on the first date or
promising you extravagances and future trips on the first couple of days
i know it feels good but you’ve got to slow down
and you know what?
when you slow down, it’s actually going to be a great way to basically suss out those narcissists
because if you slow down or you say “let’s pump the brakes”
the narcissist is going to get very hostile very quickly
and they’ll probably start ignoring you
so that’s gonna be your first sign
okay this person wasn’t going to deliver on their promise anyway
- the second warning sign is that it kind of feels like a fairy tale
now we all want our personal romantic fairy tales
but if it feels too much like a rom-com (romantic comedy)
you need to pump the brakes
and you need to just slow down, draw out the distance between
when you see them
how long you spend with them on dates
just try to exercise a little bit of self-control
because you have to really wait to see whether this actually develops into a worthwhile relationship
- the third warning sign is that they don’t accept any responsibility for anything
so they may say i’m going to call you tomorrow
we’re going to go on another date this weekend
they don’t call for several days
and they just appear later expecting you to welcome them with open arms
if you confront them on that issue
and they say what do you mean?
i never said i was going to call you the next day
that’s another warning sign
because narcissists do not take responsibility
dr judy it sounds like
you’re saying you can listen to what ・・・なことthey’re saying 言ってること
but paymore attention toより注目しろ what・・・なこと they’re doing 実際の行動
as opposed to what they’re saying because they say they’re going to do a whole lot of stuff
and then they do a whole lot of nothing
but don’t be so on the alarm that you don’t give anybody a chance
we gotta have balance this information right
it’s like
don’t go too fast don’t go too slow
this is the goldilocks rule you guys for dating
we just need to make sure we have balance right
yeah that’s right you don’t want to miss your blessing
thanks dr judy you’re the best
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